Some ways I've survived (and even thrived) while in the middle of a stressful divorce:
1. The eliptical machine at the South Davis Rec Center. I'm doing other things now, like basketball practice and running, but there was a good 3 month stretch when I was on that machine 40 minutes a day, five days a week.
2. Friends. I have been graciously encircled by a cadre of wonderful women. It's been easier to keep close friends as I've made the hard choices that have brought me closer to being my true, good self.
3. A decent lawyer. Yeh, they cost money, but having a lawyer that I have a lot of confidence in removes lots of immediate stress because I'm sure it's important and good for the long term.
4. Laughter. Funny movies, funny friends, funny websites, funny tv. It is not just a distraction; laughing a lot at all sorts of crazy stuff helps me remember to laugh at myself and that is what helps me keep everything in perspective.
6. A good therapist. Mine said I'm doing remarkably well, all things considered, and didn't even schedule a follow-up or next visit. But it was still good to hear some professional validation of things I'd been sorting through for several months.
7. Family. I stay connected to all of my siblings on the internet and phone and we are very close. My parents provided the well sheltered harbor we (my girls and I) needed for several of the roughest weeks.
8. A savings account. It's gone now, but was definitely nice to have when this all started.
9. Learning new things. Learning to prep the walls of a room before painting it was lots of fun. Next? I want to learn to ride a motorcycle, shoot a handgun, and change the oil in my car.
10. Trust. I have a lot of trust right now in my daughters and in their ability to weather the immediate storm. I also have lots of trust in God and his ridiculously mysterious hands, always holding us, but never letting us see that far ahead.
I'm not really out of the woods yet, but this whole journey has followed the last couple of seasons closely and in many, many ways if feels just like spring. I feel hopeful and renewed.